Mwayi: zikutanthauza chiyani kwenikweni?
Chimwemwe ndi chinthu chomwe aliyense akuwoneka kuti akuchilakalaka. M'Chijeremani, monganso m'zilankhulo zina, pali miyambi yosawerengeka, mawu okweza ndi miyambi yonse yokhudza chisangalalo. Ndipo kuti, ngakhale mawu awa alibe tanthauzo lomveka. Chifukwa chiyani chisangalalo? Mu German amatanthauza zinthu zingapo nthawi imodzi, koma palibe dzina kwenikweni konkire. Nkhaniyi ikufotokoza mozama.
Mwayi vs. Chimwemwe - chimodzimodzi ku Germany
Pali zochitika zomwe olemba ku Germany amafuna kugwedeza mitu yawo pagome. Mwachitsanzo, ngati mukufuna kuti chikhalidwe chanu 'chiwoneke choyipa'. Mu Chingerezi ili ndi liwu limodzi lomveka bwino: kuseka. Ndipo pankhani ya chimwemwe, mayiko olankhula Chingelezi amakhala osangalala chifukwa ali ndi ‘mwayi’ wawo ndi ‘chimwemwe’ chawo. Koma kodi izi zikutanthauza chiyani m'mawu omveka?
mwayi - kukhala ndi mwayi, kufunira wina mwayi - ndiye Mwayi wamba. Ku Germany ndi mwayi, ndithudi, koma izo sizimagunda msomali pamutu. Wina ali ndi mwayi ngati adapambana lottery, ngati ali ndi kuyankhulana kwa ntchito, amafunidwa mwayi. Munthu akhoza kukhala wosangalala, koma zimangomveka ngati mphindi yochepa yomwe simasonyeza kukhutira kwathunthu. Chotero munthu wodwala kwambiri angakhale wokondwa kukhala m’paki. Koma wakhutitsidwa? Apanso, Chingerezi ndicholondola kwambiri: Ndine mwayi ... zikutanthauza china kuposa: Ndine mwayi.
chisangalalo - mu German zikuwoneka ngati izi. Koma tanthauzo lake n’lakuti kukhutira kumene sikuchokera pa mawu akuti chimwemwe. Chabwino, dziko ili liri ndi chochita ndi kukhala osangalala, chifukwa ndi okhutitsidwa wamba ndi moyo. Izi sizidalira mwayi. Ngakhale munthu watsoka mtheradi amene sanaphonyepo tsoka akhoza kukhutitsidwa. Ngakhale amene ali wamkulu Lottery mwayi wopambana angagwiritse ntchito yekha, mwachiwonekere ali ndi mwayi, koma angakhale wosakhutira ndi moyo wake wonse.
Chotero chimwemwe ndi chikhutiro siziri zofanana, ngakhale kuti nthaŵi zina zingagwirizane.
Kodi n’chiyani chimatisangalatsa?
Zinthu zina zimangotipatsa chimwemwe. Pali chabe ndondomeko ya thupi kumbuyo kwa kumverera, chifukwa ubongo umatulutsa mahomoni osangalala omwe amakweza maganizo kwa nthawi inayake. Zodabwitsa ndizakuti, kuwala kotentha kwa dzuwa mu kasupe kungakhale chifukwa. Koma pali zitsanzo zina, ndithudi, zomwe ziri zonse ndipo sizikutsimikiziridwa kuti zigwiritsidwe ntchito kwa aliyense. Kafukufuku wasonyeza kuti kwa ife thanzi, mgwirizano, banja, anthu ena, ntchito ndi ana momveka bwino patsogolo pa kupambana, abwenzi ndi ndalama, ngakhale sizikudziwikiratu kuti mawonekedwe kwenikweni amatanthauza. Izi sizili chonchonso ndi zotsatira za ofufuza achimwemwe:
- mgwirizano - iye ndiye wopanga chimwemwe, momwe ukwati umapangitsa kukhala wosangalala pang'ono.
- ana- Ana omwe amatengedwa ngati mfundo yachisangalalo.
- ntchito- sizikutanthauza ntchito. Ndi za ntchito yokwaniritsa yomwe imamveka kwa inu.
- kucheza/abwenzi - gulu labwino la abwenzi, maphwando, kuchita bizinesi ndi zifukwa zofunika.
Koma pali ena osangalatsa:
- chokoleti - golidi wakuda amadziwika kuti amakweza serotonin bwino ndikukupangitsani kukhala osangalala mwamsanga. Koma chisangalalocho sichiyenera kupitirira malire.
- kugonana Kapena kani: orgasm.
- Zosangalatsa - ngati adrenaline yoyera imayenda m'mitsempha yanu, dopamine ndi serotonin boost zidzayamba posachedwa. Zodabwitsa ndizakuti, zokondweretsa zimayendetsa madera omwewo a ubongo monga mankhwala osokoneza bongo.
- Chisangalalo - ngati mumadzichitira nokha nthawi ndikudzipangitsa kukhala omasuka, lolani mzimu wanu ugwedezeke ndikungochita zomwe mumakonda, mudzakhala osangalala kwakanthawi kochepa.
- Mphatso zazing'ono - Ndizokhudza chidwi chochepa chomwe tonse timakondwera nacho. Mphatso iliyonse imadzetsa chisangalalo.
Chifukwa chiyani kukhala wokhutira kuli kofunika kwambiri kuposa chimwemwe chokhalitsa
Kumverera kwachisangalalo kwenikweni sikuli kanthu koma mahomoni othamanga kwambiri. Choncho sizingakhale zomveka kuyesetsa kupeza chisangalalo chamuyaya, chifukwa aliyense amene amakhala wosangalala nthawi zonse amafunikira zambiri ndipo sangathenso kuona zinthu zosavuta monga chimwemwe. Makamaka pankhani yopambana ma lotale, nkosavuta kuwona kuti ndalama zokha sizingathetsenso. Izi zingakhalenso zodabwitsa, chifukwa kampasi yamwayi sikuti imangokhala ndi mayiko olemera kwambiri. Koma kodi n’chifukwa chiyani kukhutira ndi njira yoti zinthu ziyendere bwino?
- khazikika - ngati mwakhutitsidwa, nthawi zambiri mumakhala ndi chikhumbo, mwayi ndi nyumba yosungiramo zinthu zakale kuti mutenge magawo ang'onoang'ono achimwemwe.
- zofunika zofunika - Monga lamulo, zofunikira zonse zimakwaniritsidwa pamene kukhutitsidwa wamba.
- umoyo - Ngati mwakhutitsidwa, mumakhala athanzi pakapita nthawi. Zatsimikiziridwa kale kuti malingaliro oipa, kuvutika maganizo, kusokonezeka kwa kugona ndi nkhawa zonse zomwe zingatilemetse zimakhudza kwambiri thanzi lathu.
- chimwemwe - Bwanji? Tsopano inde? Inde, chifukwa ngati mutakhutira, mudzapeza chimwemwe ndi chisangalalo. Komabe, ndi mwayi wawung'ono, monga kuwala kwadzuwa kotchulidwa kapena kukambirana kwabwino kosayembekezereka.
Pomaliza - Iwalani chisangalalo, kwaniritsani kukhutira
Aliyense akhoza kukhala ndi mwayi, kudzifunira okha mwayi kapena kusangalala. Koma kukhutitsidwa n’kofunika kwambiri, chifukwa kumalongosola mkhalidwe wamuyaya ndi weniweni umene uyenera kuukalimira. Ndipo kukhutira sikudalira kwenikweni kuchita bwino kapena kukhala ndi ndalama zambiri, chifukwa ngati mwakhutitsidwa ndi inu nokha, mwapeza kale mbali ya chikhutiro. Komabe, chimwemwe chikhoza kukhalabe m'moyo malinga ngati sichikuyesedwa ndi miyezo yomwe nthawi zambiri imagwirizanitsidwa nayo: phindu, kupambana, ndalama ndi kupambana. Chifukwa: Kupambana kozikidwa pa mwayi sikungakhale kopambana.